Monthly Archives: May 2013

‘Arbonner’ for life: Why I cannot stop smiling lately.

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Reasons to smile… Photo credit Gary Trent Photography, Grand Forks, BC

Reasons to smile…
Photo credit Gary Trent Photography, Grand Forks, BC

6 months ago I started a home-based business with a company called Arbonne. It was not on my radar, nor did I expect the changes that it would cause in my life when I signed on as an Independent Consultant. I am on a really fun part of the ride. The part where you can see what’s up ahead and you just can’t stop smiling.

Let me break it down real quick for you why I am loving this business and what some of the benefits are.

  1. I am the CEO of my own business – HELLO! I am my own boss. If I want to work on my business for only 1 hour instead of 2 today… so be it! No emails need to be sent or manager-types consulted. It’s MY business.
  2. Tax breaks – It only took Robert Kiyosaki and tax guru Sandy Botkin telling me one time what the benefits of being a business owner were going to be. This is huge. I don’t even have to be making money…just trying to make money is good enough for the government. I am creating jobs. Cell phone, car, part of my mortgage, meals, coffee, entertainment costs when with clients or prospects… all going into the excel spreadsheet as business building necessities.
  3. No glass ceiling – I’ll say it. I like to be good at what I do. I like to be really good. But in my health care career, there is nowhere to go. Our profession is unrecognized on so many levels. So imagine my pure delight when I see how possible it is to achieve amazing things in multi-level marketing. Can I set goals, have vision and build belief? You betcha! Do I like to lead? Oh yeah! Do I love the idea of forming a team and supporting them to achieve amazing things in their own lives? Could not be more excited!
  4. Helping others starts here – My team has already started to build. We are growing together. We support each other and know that we will be relying on each other for positive energy, drive and a good swift kick if we get off track. I was BLOWN AWAY when I started to feel the supportive nature of an upline in MLM. People that work above me want me to succeed and will show me exactly what they did to be earning over $100,000 a month. Of course they want me to succeed…that’s the beauty of building a downline. But the kindness and patience is genuine. The encouragement to do the personal development work was real. And the results are fantastic!
  5. Confidence – Who doesn’t have baggage? Who doesn’t have little voices that tell them they will fail? Who doesn’t need more confidence? I listened to my upline, did the reading, set my vision and goals and found my belief. The baggage just started to fall away on its’ own. (Top ten list of personal development books to come on a later post).
  6. Wicked feeling skin and a lighter side to me – There is no denying that becoming a ‘product’ of the Arbonne products is a huge perk. This stuff just makes your skin feel and look amazing. There is a skincare line for everyone: sensitive, aging, men, babies. The health and wellness line has started to help me melt off the stubborn 10lbs that no one else seems to see. All great things especially when my husband gets to see and feel the results!!  There really IS something for everyone!
  7. Networking – Yup, this means talking to people! YES! I am really excited about this perk. I am loving the new connections. I really enjoy interacting with new people everyday and widening my ‘circle’. It’s amazing how when you really listen to people you not only hear some amazing stories but you hear the emotion and begin to understand them as individuals.

I am learning so much…learning to love, learning to listen, learning to live with a fierceness and drive that I could never have imagined. Most of all, learning that my success cannot be obtained if I do not help others succeed around me.  So sign me up as a ‘lifer’… Arbonne has truly ignited a transformational journey in my life.

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Cleaning house – Love on the run!

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I was at work the other day and marvelling at the sparkly rings on a co-workers fingers. I asked her how she got them to look so great and got an appropriate answer. She cleaned them! I looked down at my own band and engagement ring and thought, “Good God!”. It has been over 5 years since I have cleaned my rings. No wonder they look so dull and lifeless!!

Well…if that isn’t a metaphor for relationships smacking me right in the face, then I don’t what is! Relationships take work….consistent, small efforts and attempts at maintenence to keep them functional and happy. If you let 5 years go by, you will look up and find a roomate. No sparkle. No zip. No little flutters in your chest just by looking at them.

If you have children, then you know exactly what I mean. You have likely lost all your couple time to spending great family moments together.  Don’t get me wrong! Family time is amazing and essential but so is couple time. You two were the foundation. A strong family cannot stand on shaky ground!

American business philosopher Jim Rohn refers to this as ‘tending your garden’ in his book ‘Twelve Pillars’. If left  to itself, the ‘garden’ will be run over by weeds. A relationship that gets a little attention every day will flourish.

SO what do we do to keep the fire alive (so to speak)? I have a few suggestions but I would LOVE to hear yours in the comments below! Let’s share our tips on keeping love long-lasting and fresh in our hectic lives.

  1. Touch each other often – This goes hand in hand with my attempts at living life  authentically by working on connection and listening but goes one step further. It is really about moving connection to the physical level. Just by touching an arm, a hand, brushing against each other while you make P,B & J sandwiches (ah, the romance!) and you will be surprised at the energy it creates throughout the day.
  2. Make the time – Put down the remote, put down the broom and back away from the iPad. I know it is hard because we are all so tired out and want to veg out on autopilot, but you need to set a time for you both to be together. Get a sitter or keep the sacred post-bedtime hour to yourselves. An hour a day is a tiny commitment for the love of your life.
  3. Share your dreams, or just your ice cream –What are your big goals? Where do you want to be in 10 years. What flavor of Menchie’s fro-yo did you have today? What did you have for lunch? The point is…just talk to each other! Keep the conversation going…keep the connection. If you don’t look interested, you probably aren’t. Pop out for a ‘quickie’ to get dessert and hold hands while you ponder preschool options. You will never regret taking time for each other. ‘Discipline weighs ounces, regret weighs tons’ – Jim Rohn

Brave. The resolution.

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In my Father's eyes...

In my Father’s eyes…

So where did we leave off? Oh right, I was pacing the room, making myself nauseous and about to meet my father for the first time in my life. What a moment! SO stressful that I will likely never forget that feeling.

There was another feeling I felt later that day that was equally as acute. An aching feeling of sadness as we drove away from my father, leaving him behind again in return to our children and our busy lives. This is it. The intensity. The power. The FEELING. This is what life is about. Yet, so often we shy away from moments like this that will reward us with a feeling so powerful that we cannot help but know we are alive!

SO how was our 7-hour day together? Indescribable. I can tell you that we embraced upon meeting. I can tell you that we talked for hours over coffee while I showed him pictures of me growing up and he showed me pictures of my entire paternal ancestral line going 4 generations back. I can tell you we drove to one of his favorite places to take nature photographs and then did a spontaneous photo shoot with me as the subject. I can tell you that there were so many moments when we just held hands or gazed at each other. I can tell you that I literally felt through his entire being the love he had for my mother.

But none of that will be enough to convey the moments so powerful, like little earthquakes shifting in my consciousness. Moments in which I heard that I was loved, wanted, longed for. Little fissures in my beliefs, followed by new connections that were stronger, less imagined and forged with love. I could never have imagined it better.

I am so excited about this new connection and all its’ potential. I feel the power of it like a surge of energy that can ignite every action in my days whether routine or adventurous. This has been a journey a long time in the making. Perhaps that time was necessary, bringing us to the right moment. I have named this the year to face my fears and this was fear #1. Now that I have conquered the biggest… I can line them all up and knock the rest out of the park. Bring it. I am ready.

Brave. A personal journey years in the making.

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As I write this, I am looking out a patio door onto the Granby river in a little town called Grand Forks in the Boundary Country region of B.C. The sun is shining brilliantly after a rainfall and I can hear a myriad of unfamiliar bird calls. I am so excited to be here. “Am I on vacation?” you may ask. Nope… not quite. I am on a mission. A mission to face a fear that is so deeply ingrained in my body that it is as familiar to me as the feeling of my own heart beating in my chest.

I am here to meet my real father. Yes, for the first time. Yes, I am 35 years old. Yes, it is about time.

I will not reflect on how it came to be that I do not know my real father at this stage of my life here on my blog as this would expose the personal lives of others. How we got here is not really so important as what we do now, this instant.

I will, however, reflect on what kind of hurdle this has been for me. I have struggled with feeling ‘abandoned’, ‘unwanted’ and ‘never good enough’ for as long as I can remember. It did not matter whether these feelings were in my present state of mind. They were intrinsic, ever-present obstacles that I would dance around daily or appease by acting out for attention. They were subtle…but even the smallest mosquito can cause quite a ruckus when it is trapped in the room with you.

There are some amazing substitutes for fathers and mine were my grandfather and then later on, my step-father. Love was given, tears were wiped. I was not left wanting for a male presence as I grew up. But there it still was, buzzing in the back of my mind despite my protests of “Why should I want to know my real father? What do I need him for? What will it change?”.

My sister, truly the boldest of we two, made the big leap of contacting our father first.  She was hunting down some family history. I thank my lucky stars above that I had done some recent personal ‘work’ by way of starting my own business, as this placed my mind in exactly the right state to hear her tell me “He is really lovely and he REALLY wants to talk to you!”.

I also need to thank Mark Zuckerberg for the gift of Facebook at this point because it is SO much easier to type a quick message than it is to dial a number. So I wrote a quick note to my father…asking for patience. It was in me to call, I just needed a few more days.

And then I found it! The spark, the inertia, the drive to not only call but really have a wonderful conversation. To hear his voice, finally solid after being such a mystery. To hear his tellings of our family history, the artistic talent, the fact that he himself never knew his own father. But most of all, to hear that when I was 5 months old, he tried to see me but came up against resistance in the form of family meaning well.

That conversation started the pull that I felt toward him. I needed  to meet him and I would feel even more incomplete and frustrated every day that passed without it happening. He sent me a photo that he had taken of himself and my mother before their marriage. Gazing at these two faces together was jarring. There was love there. This existed. I am stronger because of this.

So when I looked at my calendar for the next few months, I was so dismayed. This was important dammit! I will make it a priority! And so here we are…I am so nervous that I feel sick. What will he think of me? What will we talk about? The only thing that calms me is pacing across the tiny motel room and gazing at the engorged river. Just breathe. Just breathe…This is where you are meant to be right now. This is my mantra. On this day of faith. In search of love.

To be continued…

Day (448) – The Path of the Pawn

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Fantastic post! The easiest path is that of the victim. Give in, let life take over and roll with the surf, letting the waves beat you until you change form, reduced and diminished. But, when you connect with your soul in such a way that you are excited about its’ potential…you start to fight through the surf. You push back. You become lighter somehow when you start to love yourself and others with unfailing hope. You can then rise above the water to surf on the waves instead.

The Better Man Project ™

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Isn’t that the truth. Let me tell you a short story.

Up until my sophomore year of college, I was a pawn. Put me on the board of life and tell me what to do – I would do it. I was guided by routine – go to school, go to practice, go home and eat and do it all over again. The routine lasted for years and of course there were some very positive things that came out of this path. However, eventually the foundation was cracked and a decision had to be made. Who will you be from this moment on?

Each piece of the board has its own benefits – but in looking back I know that I didn’t automatically tell myself that I was going to be a king…no…I had to graduate first to a knight. And off we went, moving two steps forward and one…

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Living Life Large – Lessons I learned from Duck Dynasty

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Si duck dynastySO, I generally do not watch television much at all, but there is a show that I have happened to catch on slow days of work that I just cannot look away from. If you have seen Duck Dynasty, you will get where I am coming from. These self-confessed redneck millionaires can be highly entertaining and show us some of life’s simpler rules to live by.

#1 We all need a little PLAY time – from lawnmower races, jousting on a Segway or taking a dip to cool off in the back of your own pickup truck, these guys know how to have fun. Schedule in some time to let loose and enjoy yourself!

#2 Just be yourself – Living an authentic life, true to who you really are includes NOT trying to blend in. Don’t be average. Be the most exceptional version of yourself possible. If you are a redneck, duck hunting, duck-call designer, then be THE top in your game. Phil – The head of the family and creator of Duck Commander duck calls – does this with gusto. Check him out at this link.

#3 Find your passion and run with it…in a big way. The creator of Duck Commander had a  solution to a particular problem and he turned it into million dollar business and then some.

#4 Never forget the importance of family. You are bound to these crazy folk by blood…so do your best to work with what you have. If you run your own business, it will give you some great skills to help you deal with your own team! Thanksgiving dinner can be a like a practicum in Conflict Negotiation 101.

Because it is just AWESOME! Arbonne for body and soul.

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Okay, I only have a few minutes – actually only enough time for Dora and Boots to get through the jungle and up the tallest hill to reach the fix-it machine!?! Wow, if they can do all those things in 20 minutes, I can surely write a blog post! Right?!? Feeling inadequate.

I marvelled after my morning face-prep routine today at the state of my skin. After 2 children, I had some looming dark circles, skin with absolutely NO rebound and wrinkles were setting in BIG TIME! 5 months later and so much has changed. I have a firmness to my skin that is astounding after I thought I had lost it forever! My husband was amazed at how soft my face is. AND, those lines of experience are ever-so-softly reduced, making me feel not so weary when I catch a peek at myself all covered in crumbs and disheveled after a long day with the kids.

I’m not what you would call a materialistic or narcissistic person in general, but there is something to be said for taking care of your body. Confidence has it’s roots in my body and my soul and I can truly flourish when I look and feel my best. When I know that I am happy with my presentation of self, I can really focus on my interactions with others. I can listen to them, see them and really hear what they are saying without being interrupted by that little voice in my head saying “Hmmm, looking a bit ragged today, eh Momma?”.

 

Mother’s day contest!

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All of my new Arbonne clients this week that spend a minimum of $100 (SRP) will be entered to WIN a free Arbonne Mother’s Day Gift Set. Set includes an RE9 Advanced Cellular Renewal Masque, Arbonne Cosmetics Makeup Primer and an RE9 Instant Lift Gel. ($180 CA Value)

https://www.arbonne.ca/shop_online/showitem.asp?ProductId=1169&menuId=250&withLinks=1

 

The cellular renewal masque is one of my favorite Arbonne products. I use it at night after the facial cleanser to get an ultra-quick boost of softness as dead skin cells are removed from the epidermis. My face is SO soft after this treatment. A mini-facial at my every whim!

The makeup primer is THE best I have ever felt. Primer fans will all agree and love the anti-aging polypeptides in the formulation.

Contest open to everyone!!!

Purchases must be made between May 6th to May 13th, 2013. To complete a purchase online at http://www.Arbonne.ca you will need my ID #115824016. Good Luck!