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A fine balance – Sources of positive energy.

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Energy…it flows through us and around us every day. The world is swirling, turning, and teaming with energy. So, why do we all feel so tired? Why do our days feel overwhelming and exhausting?  Is it because we are exhausting our energy stores without knowledge of  how to fill ourselves back up? Are we not making time for the things that create energy in our lives?

With this post I am hoping to give you some options. Ideas on how you may ignite a new spark of energy flowing into yourself instead of the endless river flowing out that you are likely very familiar with.

Idea #1 –Mindfulness practice. A few years ago, I was struggling with my first child as he made his way slowly and steadily into the ‘terrible two’ stage. I was a mess. He was a mess. I could not manage his random tantrums and they threw me so off-balance that I would end up on the floor beside him in tears. I looked for help. It came in several resources. The one that has made the biggest change in my life (and likely thousands of others) is Dr. Dan Siegel. If you have not yet heard about neuroplasticity…get Googling! Your neural pathways can be altered, your habits changed, your fears alleviated and your stress reduced. Books I suggest for learning about how to become more aware of your mind, brain and relationships around you are: Mindsight, The Whole-Brain Child and Parenting from the inside out. Once you begin the practice of disconnecting your emotions from your core belief of self…you can lose the negative and revel in the possibilities for good.

Idea #2 – Success and leadership coaching . There is nothing like a fantastic coach to boost your self-esteem and your drive to surge forward with energy.  Learn time management skills , how to set goals and actually achieve them, how to craft your vision for the future and how to lead without a title. I personally enjoy the teachings of Robin Sharma and think he is a GREAT place to start since he has so many free video resources on YouTube and his website. Jim Rohn’s book Twelve Pillars is a must-read also.

Idea #3 – Rediscover how to communicate. I’m just going to come out and say it. Television is toxic. Victims watch television. If you are sitting in front of the television between 1-3 or more hours a day and you are complaining about your life….then you are your own worst enemy. PUT DOWN THE REMOTE! Take control of your own life. Go out and join a class. Meet new people. Make things happen simply by engaging in conversation and participating in your own life! The only way to reap the rewards of a positive life with great energy is to do the work. Start reading and stop playing the victim. 

Idea #4 – Play, play, play. This point is especially key if you have children and feel so overwhelmed by a busy schedule. There is time for work and a time for play. Separate the two and find joy in games and play again. Rediscover fun and laughter. Swing on a swing. Race across the sand. Stop being so SERIOUS for even just an hour!! Remember that simple things can bring great happiness and good energy.

Idea #6 – Exercise the demons/You are what you eat. This one is so self-explanatory and we KNOW this by now! Exercise takes your energy to a greater level. It is necessary if you do not have  a job that requires physical labour (most of us!). The more you exercise, the more energy you will have and the more time you can commit to becoming  WHO you want to be and getting WHERE you want to be. Learn what a healthy diet looks like and make small changes every day to get you on the track for success.

Idea #5 – Choose your ‘peeps’ wisely. In my short 35 years on this earth, I am sure of only a few things. One of those things is that you cannot change other people. People can only change themselves. If you have friends or co-workers that routinely suck the energy right out of you by way of negative thoughts and comments, then you must simply choose to limit your exposure to them. Move on and surround yourself with those that do impact you positively. The negative ones WILL protest. They will call down your new choices. They will say nasty things to get you back under their dark cloud with them. Let them bray like mules and keep focused on the light ahead! You will be more beneficial to so many more people if  you find the BEST you.

Go for it!

CB

Cleaning house – Love on the run!

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I was at work the other day and marvelling at the sparkly rings on a co-workers fingers. I asked her how she got them to look so great and got an appropriate answer. She cleaned them! I looked down at my own band and engagement ring and thought, “Good God!”. It has been over 5 years since I have cleaned my rings. No wonder they look so dull and lifeless!!

Well…if that isn’t a metaphor for relationships smacking me right in the face, then I don’t what is! Relationships take work….consistent, small efforts and attempts at maintenence to keep them functional and happy. If you let 5 years go by, you will look up and find a roomate. No sparkle. No zip. No little flutters in your chest just by looking at them.

If you have children, then you know exactly what I mean. You have likely lost all your couple time to spending great family moments together.  Don’t get me wrong! Family time is amazing and essential but so is couple time. You two were the foundation. A strong family cannot stand on shaky ground!

American business philosopher Jim Rohn refers to this as ‘tending your garden’ in his book ‘Twelve Pillars’. If left  to itself, the ‘garden’ will be run over by weeds. A relationship that gets a little attention every day will flourish.

SO what do we do to keep the fire alive (so to speak)? I have a few suggestions but I would LOVE to hear yours in the comments below! Let’s share our tips on keeping love long-lasting and fresh in our hectic lives.

  1. Touch each other often – This goes hand in hand with my attempts at living life  authentically by working on connection and listening but goes one step further. It is really about moving connection to the physical level. Just by touching an arm, a hand, brushing against each other while you make P,B & J sandwiches (ah, the romance!) and you will be surprised at the energy it creates throughout the day.
  2. Make the time – Put down the remote, put down the broom and back away from the iPad. I know it is hard because we are all so tired out and want to veg out on autopilot, but you need to set a time for you both to be together. Get a sitter or keep the sacred post-bedtime hour to yourselves. An hour a day is a tiny commitment for the love of your life.
  3. Share your dreams, or just your ice cream –What are your big goals? Where do you want to be in 10 years. What flavor of Menchie’s fro-yo did you have today? What did you have for lunch? The point is…just talk to each other! Keep the conversation going…keep the connection. If you don’t look interested, you probably aren’t. Pop out for a ‘quickie’ to get dessert and hold hands while you ponder preschool options. You will never regret taking time for each other. ‘Discipline weighs ounces, regret weighs tons’ – Jim Rohn