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A fine balance – Sources of positive energy.

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Energy…it flows through us and around us every day. The world is swirling, turning, and teaming with energy. So, why do we all feel so tired? Why do our days feel overwhelming and exhausting?  Is it because we are exhausting our energy stores without knowledge of  how to fill ourselves back up? Are we not making time for the things that create energy in our lives?

With this post I am hoping to give you some options. Ideas on how you may ignite a new spark of energy flowing into yourself instead of the endless river flowing out that you are likely very familiar with.

Idea #1 –Mindfulness practice. A few years ago, I was struggling with my first child as he made his way slowly and steadily into the ‘terrible two’ stage. I was a mess. He was a mess. I could not manage his random tantrums and they threw me so off-balance that I would end up on the floor beside him in tears. I looked for help. It came in several resources. The one that has made the biggest change in my life (and likely thousands of others) is Dr. Dan Siegel. If you have not yet heard about neuroplasticity…get Googling! Your neural pathways can be altered, your habits changed, your fears alleviated and your stress reduced. Books I suggest for learning about how to become more aware of your mind, brain and relationships around you are: Mindsight, The Whole-Brain Child and Parenting from the inside out. Once you begin the practice of disconnecting your emotions from your core belief of self…you can lose the negative and revel in the possibilities for good.

Idea #2 – Success and leadership coaching . There is nothing like a fantastic coach to boost your self-esteem and your drive to surge forward with energy.  Learn time management skills , how to set goals and actually achieve them, how to craft your vision for the future and how to lead without a title. I personally enjoy the teachings of Robin Sharma and think he is a GREAT place to start since he has so many free video resources on YouTube and his website. Jim Rohn’s book Twelve Pillars is a must-read also.

Idea #3 – Rediscover how to communicate. I’m just going to come out and say it. Television is toxic. Victims watch television. If you are sitting in front of the television between 1-3 or more hours a day and you are complaining about your life….then you are your own worst enemy. PUT DOWN THE REMOTE! Take control of your own life. Go out and join a class. Meet new people. Make things happen simply by engaging in conversation and participating in your own life! The only way to reap the rewards of a positive life with great energy is to do the work. Start reading and stop playing the victim. 

Idea #4 – Play, play, play. This point is especially key if you have children and feel so overwhelmed by a busy schedule. There is time for work and a time for play. Separate the two and find joy in games and play again. Rediscover fun and laughter. Swing on a swing. Race across the sand. Stop being so SERIOUS for even just an hour!! Remember that simple things can bring great happiness and good energy.

Idea #6 – Exercise the demons/You are what you eat. This one is so self-explanatory and we KNOW this by now! Exercise takes your energy to a greater level. It is necessary if you do not have  a job that requires physical labour (most of us!). The more you exercise, the more energy you will have and the more time you can commit to becoming  WHO you want to be and getting WHERE you want to be. Learn what a healthy diet looks like and make small changes every day to get you on the track for success.

Idea #5 – Choose your ‘peeps’ wisely. In my short 35 years on this earth, I am sure of only a few things. One of those things is that you cannot change other people. People can only change themselves. If you have friends or co-workers that routinely suck the energy right out of you by way of negative thoughts and comments, then you must simply choose to limit your exposure to them. Move on and surround yourself with those that do impact you positively. The negative ones WILL protest. They will call down your new choices. They will say nasty things to get you back under their dark cloud with them. Let them bray like mules and keep focused on the light ahead! You will be more beneficial to so many more people if  you find the BEST you.

Go for it!

CB

A Mother’s work is never done… Scheduling for greatness #2

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Today’s post will be a bit ironic as I am not currently home with my children working my ‘Mommy Biz’. I am on a break at my ‘real’ job in health care. So, my absence from my children very appropriately leads me into my first suggestion in scheduling for greatness #2.

1.Engage the help of others! – When I had my first child I though no one could teach him as well as me. He and I had THE best connection. I understood all his words, knew his signals, knew which foods he liked the most and which ones he would probably throw at the dog. So, OF COURSE he was always better off with me at all times, right? HA! When I started to stray from the nest and take a few hours to myself, I quickly saw that my little boy thrived on many occasions when we were apart. He spoke new words, tried different activities, played in new ways and became more bold in his social interactions. Retrospectively…duh! My children were challenged in new ways whenever they were placed in new situations. Not rocket science, right? Well, we Moms want to feel needed… so we may need a gentle reminder that asking for help from others and taking some time away can REALLY be beneficial for both Mom and child. Get a friend or family member to relieve you at least a couple of times per week. The benefits are huge.

2. Get yourself a smart phone. Jump in…it won’t hurt. These little gadgets have been around for long enough for you to know what they are capable of. You name it…there’s an ‘app’ for it. From wicked visual monthly calendars (PocketLife – my Arbonne appointments are pink!) to text apps that keep you in contact with your downline (WhatsApp!), they are cheap or even free and so easy to use. In small home businesses, you are your own assistant, so get organized! Social media is not an option anymore for a small business, so apps like Facebook Pages, Twitter, Pinterest and WordPress can keep you in touch with your client base everywhere you go. Just make sure that you set your limits and don’t try to check your blog views while you should be watching your 3 year old daughter’s ballet recital!! Set personal limits and schedule your business into your day!!

3. Get a journal, keep a list – Go to staples, buy a pen and journal and ignore the looks of disgust from the Millennials staring you down in the process! Every day, journal about your day, set some goals, write down new ideas or to-do lists and just think creatively. You can do this a.m. or p.m. or both! Just seeing the progress I have made in the 25 pages I have documented is inspiring!! Growth, belief, vision, all documented in my own hand. Nothing more beautiful.

A Mother’s work is never done… Scheduling for greatness #1

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I was washing the floor this morning and trying to wrap my head around our schedule for the day. I can really think when I wash the floor. Maybe it’s because of the repetitive ‘push-pull’ of the mop. Maybe it’s because my children have to be preoccupied so I can keep them off the floor. Either way, I can really think things through and follow my train of thought when I am in full house-frau mode!

Anyways, speaking of train of thought… I was pondering a remark a friend of mine had made about how she cannot understand how I fit everything into my schedule. Part-time shifts at the hospital, son back and forth to preschool, daughter down for naps, working my Arbonne business, dinners out with my husband, keeping a Facebook page and now a blog up to date and even popping out for a social night of West Coast Swing dancing once a month. This made me really think about how we can fit so many things into a day and not go crazy with stress. So, maybe I can share a few things that work for me.

1. Involve your children – These little people love to be a part of the family dynamic. They want to be considered an integral part of the family. Make them feel like you could not function without them! Make sure that you run some plans by them, even a day or two before it happens. My son in particular really needs to be given advanced notice of things and I always regret it if I throw something at him he does not expect! FREAKOUT session! Nothing like a screaming 4 year old to create stress. The conversation usually goes something like this…”This week, we have a few things that we need to do and I need your help…” Then I give him a list, reinforcing the days of the week as we go through (teachable moment!) and often end up writing him out a little schedule if some activities are related to him directly. He loves it! He even posts it up in his room and crosses the days off himself!

2. Involve your spouse – OK dear, time to pitch in! It was so unbelievable clear to me how difficult it would be if I was a stay-at-home Mom when I returned to work after both my maternity leaves. A full 12 hour shift where I did not have to be responsible for anyone but myself…HEAVEN! So, by staying home all day with my children, my husband understood how challenging the day was and now he is always ready to offer me time away whenever I request it. Errand time, gym time, shopping time, you name it. He appreciates my hard work and likely his own opportunity to be with the children and then escape to his job again the next day!

3. Take time for you!!! – This one is huge. I struggled with this and still do, but now realize the importance of this simple concept. After a full 12 hrs with my kids I felt too exhausted to even think about cleaning up and heading out. I also really wanted to spend a little time with my children and husband all together, as a family. But, I end up drained from doing the same thing ALL day with no time for me. Choose 2 or 3 days each week where you get a full hour or two away and to do whatever you need to do: exercise, shop, go for coffee with a friend. You choose! It will likely work very well if this is exercise! You WILL have energy if you just get your body moving! Get out in the fresh air with no little people to herd. You will have SO much more patience and energy for everyone else if you allow yourself to recharge.

More tips to come in the future….and don’t think I have all these things perfected.

I too, am a work in progress!! It takes persistence and perseverance to build habits for great success!